True Success (It’s Not What You Think)

True Success (It’s Not What You Think)

When people talk about success, they often think about having lots of money, 3 houses, a boat…and an island!  These are certainly nice things to have, but having these alone does not guarantee you personal happiness.  Some of the richest people are the loneliest and saddest.  Money doesn’t buy everything and certainly cannot entitle you to to true, personal success. “Over the past few years, new research has given us a much deeper understanding of the relationship between what we earn and how we feel.  Economists have been scrutinizing the links between income and happiness across nations, and psychologist have probed individuals to find out what really makes us tick when it comes to cash” (Blackman 2014) The problem is, it is easy to equate money with security and freedom.  People commonly make the mistake of putting all their time and energy into achieving a higher income, leaving little time for anything else. They exhaust their ability to develop deep connections with others, build a family, focus on love and health.  They usually end up feeling empty, lonely and like something is missing.  Having a high income and lavish life style sound appealing, yet are external factors and unless you devote them towards self fulfilling experiences, they will not contribute to personal success alone.  “Experiences are worth more than you think” (Blackman 2014) Ultimately it is what we feel that lays the foundation for personal happiness and success. When we work on our inner experiences, we are more likely to feel positive emotions such as joy, affection, tranquillity, and gratitude. Regardless of whether we have money or not, we...
19 Steps to Becoming Your Unique Self

19 Steps to Becoming Your Unique Self

In a world that exceeds a population of 7 billion people, you may find yourself wondering how to stand out from the rest? Well that’s a pretty common feeling and whilst some people shy away from the crowds, others are struggling to find a sense of individuality and uniqueness. Being unique helps to give us a sense of self-worth and importance. I most certainly seek to maintain my individualism and try to hold on to anything that makes me…… well me! Here are a few tips to help you find your point of difference…… Know that you are already unique:  There are so many factors that contribute to making us who we are.  Your genetics, your experiences, personality and outlook can only be a result of you. Recognize what it is that makes you unique and embrace it. Don’t ‘try’ to be normal: Naturally as humans, we try to fit in with others.  This is often a natural reaction to avoid criticism or looking strange.  It’s generally a ‘stay safe’ reaction. Be mindful of your tendency to try fit in, and where it may be in face hindering your uniqueness. Don’t try to be ‘ab-normal’: This might be trying to ‘fake’ something that you’re not in order to stand out or be ‘better’ than those around you. Sometimes you might actually look ‘weird’.  Being unique is being your authentic, genuine self. Acknowledge and embrace it. Be confident: Confidence isn’t about proving yourself; it is about being content just the way you are. Being confident is trusting that you ‘good enough’ and reflecting that in the way you carry yourself....
My Success Only Began At 41… Here’s Why…

My Success Only Began At 41… Here’s Why…

You hear about a lot of people who make it big early in life. People who come straight out of college and jump into an incredible career. People who have a brilliant idea at 21 and just run with it. But what about the rest of us? How does success find us? I spent 20 years searching for something that would help me become the person I always wanted to be. A job that would make me feel fulfilled and a project that would help to change lives. But nothing stuck. Nothing I found made a difference…. I felt lost. Stranded. And running out of time. One day I woke up and decided that something had to change. It clicked for me that I was truly worth more and that the risks I’d been hiding from weren’t even that scary. Sometimes you have to step outside your comfort zone, give your life a little shake and get on with the next phase. At 37 I started to find my calling. I entered a world where we were encouraged to think differently. Where success was the norm. Where people could be the people they had always wanted to be. I stepped into my true self and started living a life of purpose. 11 years later, I’m not going back. This journey is incredible and I’m reaching from strength to strength. Your Success is about helping anyone find what they’re made of and start creating life on your terms.   Here’s the five keys that changed everything for me:   1. Focus on others This one can be really hard, especially...
What Does Success Mean To You?

What Does Success Mean To You?

Am I Successful? Many of us reach a point in our lives where we question ‘what it really is all about’. What are we trying to achieve and what is our true purpose? Often at these times, we try to search for answers within ourselves. We then begin to search externally and compare ourselves to those around us. Why is their life better? Why is he smarter than me? Why is she prettier than me? Why are their kids more behaved than mine? And the list goes on… Does any of this sound familiar to you? Sometimes we find ourselves questioning some of the most insignificant things to only find we are chasing our tails and missing the real point! What does this all mean? There is no exact definition of success. Our perception of our inner and outer world are a reflection of how we are truly feeling within ourselves. Success is a result of a number of life factors that are important and of value to you. Naomi Simson (2013), founding director of RedBalloon defines success as “each person has their own definition, success is a personal notion; for some it’s financial security, others it’s health, for others it’s depth of their friendships…” We have provided you with a quiz which encourages you to consider all the areas of your life that could contribute to finding out what success means to you. It might highlight areas you hadn’t considered and provide you with a better understanding of how you can start on the path to success in your life. Rate Yourself: Consider each point and give yourself...

How to Live an Extraordinary Life

Don’t Settle for an Ordinary Life! Living an ordinary life may have different meanings to different people, however for most, their life may lacking meaning, substance or fulfillment in whatever you are doing. Regardless of how seemingly ordinary your life may be, you have the ability to live an extraordinary life if you choose and take the appropriate actions to do so. When examining the habits of people who are highly successful, it is evident that they are otherwise ordinary people creating a life with extraordinary results. Regardless of their age, nationality or education, these otherwise ordinary people exhibit many of the same behaviors, traits and ways of being. In other words, it is their actions that support them in creating the results they want in their career, relationships, finances, health and any other areas of their life. 6 extra ways you can transform your life from ordinary to extraordinary… Say ‘yes’ to the dream: This is one small but crucial step to moving out of your comfort zone. Saying yes shows your desire to have what it is your are dreaming of and demonstrates your commitment to attaining it. Its amazing what the power of yes can do.    Understand you deserve it: Believing in yourself and what you deserve. With this, you will open doors and allow wonderful things into your life. There will always be people that will try to bring you down or cause you to question your self worth, but it is important that you are aware of this and receptive to allow positive changes into your life. You are what you believe. Take the opportunities: Making your...

The Power of Positivity

Positive thinking can be defined as an optimistic or bright, mental and emotional approach to life. A positive person is more likely to anticipate happiness, health and success, and believe they can overcome obstacles or difficulties in their life. Some say, we are as happy as we choose to be. Whilst many believe adopting a positive mindset is not always an easy choice, it is really one of the most important things you can do to improve your life. It is important to become aware of how our thoughts, feelings, perceptions and desires have a direct impact on our real life outcomes. You may notice how your thoughts effect your decisions, reactions and responses to what is happening in your life and continue to shape your future. It is therefore important to pay close attention to these and how you can best contribute to creating a positive mindset to shape your future. 5 Steps to Positive Thinking: 1. Tell yourself you can change: Believe that you are in control of your thoughts therefore have the power to change your life. Understand the relationship between change and personal growth. Inspire yourself to want to change by reading positive quotes and affirmations. 2. Stop comparing: Search for happiness within, rather than analyzing what is going on around you. Ignore what other people say or think about you. Stop worrying what others are up to, or questioning the successes in their lives. We are all living our own journeys. Focus on yourself first, and once you find happiness you naturally won’t worry about what’s going on the outside. 3. Refuel and re-energize:...