by Dream Team | May 13, 2015 | blog |
You’ve been hurt in the past. And that sucks. You cannot move past something your partner did or your mom said. Maybe a friend’s piercing comment is stuck in your mind. What’s important though is you decide what to do with all that past hurt. Do you sit back, wallow in your misery, wondering about the ever-elusive “why me” question all this time? Do you endlessly ruminate about the past, getting stuck into the downward spiral of negative thinking? Or do you prefer to bounce back and make a conscious decision to take it as a learning experience and move on? Often, we’re unintentionally living in the past. We taste our food at the restaurant and think “It’s not as good as what they had the last time”. We sip our coffee and think “I wish it had less sugar”. We’re constantly ruminating on the past (or the future). According to Eckhart Tolle, we create and maintain problems in our lives because it gives us an identity. Most people replay past mistakes and painful situations over and over in their minds. They cling to frustration. They obsess and feel victimised by these experiences. In the end, no matter what the cause of your trauma, its impact on your life mainly lies in the story you tell yourself and the emotion you attach to the situation. When it’s time to let go, here are seven tips that will help you move on (even when it’s hard): 1. Decide that it is time to let go They say awareness is 90% of the journey. The first step is to acknowledge your...
