The Minimalist’s Guide to Being Successful: 4 Simple Steps

The Minimalist’s Guide to Being Successful: 4 Simple Steps

Can you recall a time when you had a “win” which should have been meaningful, yet you felt nothing? I sure have. Because success is a subjective term. It means different things to different people. For some, it is writing a bestseller book, focussing on the subjective feeling of satisfaction. For others, it could be about meeting objective metrics such as making a million dollars a year or a job title. Subjective success is a response to objective achievements. In other words, even though it may appear like you’re ticking off objectives, the drive is usually the feeling you get from achieving the goals. For example, you may value a high salary and working for a prestigious company (your objective metrics), and enjoyment at work and connection with co-workers (as subjective metrics). In your personal life, saving a good amount of money could be a measure of objective success. Subjective factors could be a happy marriage and providing for your children. Whatever success means to you, it doesn’t have to be complicated. A minimalist’s guide does not mean you lower your expectations – it means you cut out the BS and focus only on what’s absolutely necessary. Ready? Here we go. The Minimalist’s Guide to Being Successful: 4 Simple Steps 1. What’s my outcome? The Cheshire Cat was wise to say, “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there.” The first question is obvious – what do you want? It’s setting the foundation of your goal. When answering this question, write it down on a piece of paper and make it SMART. SMART stands for...
21 Ways to Get Rid of Your Fear of Failure Once and for All – Part II

21 Ways to Get Rid of Your Fear of Failure Once and for All – Part II

I wanted to stick to my promise. We looked at 11 ways to get rid of your fear once and for all in part I of this post. Here’s a recap of part I in case you missed it: Identify your fear Know that failure is inevitable Embrace the no-lose model Shift your perspective about courage Let go of the need to control Model the right people Ask: what’s the worst that could happen? Identify the secondary gain If something doesn’t work, do something else Have a physiology of success Take action Let’s look at the next 10 ways below. How to Get Rid of Your Fear of Failure: 10 More Ways 12. Reframe your sentences Failure is a relative term. Let’s say you coach 100 clients during a period of two years. You help them overcome obstacles and embrace change. You receive tons of positive reviews and testimonials as a “thank you”. But for some reason, you don’t attain a degree. Now, would you call this a failure? Or is it partial success? 100% success? The answer is whatever works for you. So long as you’re taking the right action, there is no invalid definition of success – just as there’s no valid definition of failure. You decide what’s important for you and go forth to achieve it. For some people, taking the first step is a huge deal, and still a success. Expand your goal “to learn something new” and you’ll never fail. Reframe your definition because failure at one level is success at another level. It’s how you look at it. 13. Ask the Branson questions...
7 Morning Habits of Successful People: Take Charge of Your Mornings

7 Morning Habits of Successful People: Take Charge of Your Mornings

Whether you’re all gung-ho ready to tackle your task list or barely stumbling out of your bed in the mornings, the way you kick-start your day sets a tone for rest of the day ahead of you. Some like to dive straight into their inbox to get an idea of how the day’s looking, whereas others prefer more quiet. Whatever your style, it’s important to have a habit around it, instead of a one-off. And once you’ve tested it out, you can tweak it or stick to it depending on the results. Gary Vaynerchuk, CEO of VaynerMedia, likes to plan his day right to the minute first thing in the morning. Then he jumps on to Twitter searching for his handle and responding to each and every tweet. On his way to work, he calls his mother, father or sister, a time he cherishes the most. Many leaders and top performers like to stick to such certain habits that boost their productivity and creativity, and set a tone for the day ahead. Here are 7 morning habits of successful people you can replicate for your own mornings. 7 Morning Habits of Successful People 1. Wake up an hour early 5 AM. Your alarm rings. With squinted eyes, you take a look at the time. It’s still dark outside. You figure it won’t hurt to sleep for a few more minutes. Before you know, minutes turn into hours and you wake up with a jolt. 7 AM. You’re late! You jump out of the bed, take a quick shower, grab your stuff to begin your commute to work starting your...
21 Ways to Get Rid of Your Fear of Failure Once and for All

21 Ways to Get Rid of Your Fear of Failure Once and for All

Ever wonder how they do it? How do some people manage to take extraordinary risks and still cruise through life? You know the ones I’m talking about – everything seems to work out well for them. They are rocking it in business and going gangbusters when it comes to relationships. It’s hard not to ask then: Are these people born with innate superpowers? Are they born lucky or do they face fears like we do every day? I don’t know about you, but for me, relying on fate when it comes to facing your fears is not such a great strategy to live life. It leaves you helpless. Because I’m pretty sure everyone faces the same fears, the most common one being the fear of failure; only that some people choose to pass through it rather than try to dodge it. I know what you’re thinking now. How do I do that? Here’s how. 21 Ways to Get Rid of Your Fear of Failure Once and for All 1. Identify your fear Before you can overcome it, become aware that you’re experiencing fear. Next, identify whether it’s a Level 1, 2 or 3 type. In her book Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway, Susan Jeffers talks about the three levels. Level 1 is the surface story – things that “happen” or those that require action. Example: aging, losing weight etc. Level 2 fears involve the ego. For example, someone who’s afraid of going to parties may actually be protecting themselves from making new friends and having intimate relationships. Level 3 is the “biggest fear” of all – “I...
Steal These 7 Rituals of Extremely Successful People

Steal These 7 Rituals of Extremely Successful People

I won’t lie – I’ve read way too many posts and books on what makes successful people who they are. Some of these ideas have worked for me, while others haven’t. For example, I’ve found that many successful people have daily rituals they like to stick to. These may appear strange to us (Maya Angelou would only write in a hotel room; Leonardo da Vinci would take a 20-min nap every four hours), but to them, these rituals are more freeing than limiting. They also show that personal priorities are more important for these people. I’ve compiled a list of 7 easy-to-steal rituals of successful people from my readings. Read on and let me know your thoughts in the comments! 7 Rituals of Extremely Successful People 1. They keep some kind of personal journal You’ve probably heard this one a million times – keep a journal or write down your thoughts on a daily basis. And it doesn’t have to be anything fancy. You can get a simple notebook and go the traditional pen-and-paper way, or opt for something more tech-savvy such as Evernote. Oprah does it, so does Eminem. The idea is to record your thoughts, progress, goals. You can track your progress and create a roadmap of where you want to go from here. As you develop the habit of writing in your personal journal, you get to know yourself better and clarify your thoughts and feelings, thus engaging your right brain to explore new solutions. James Pennebaker, Psychologist and Researcher at the University of Texas, believes that regular journaling strengthens immune cells called T-lymphocytes. Journaling helps you...